Dating shy teen tip
‘But they just told me that children will be children.It wasn’t taken seriously.‘There was no actual bullying or violence going on, just a kind of silent social exclusion.When the therapist couldn’t provide a solution, Susan’s next port of call was her health visitor who did a one-to-one session with Sam at pre-school — and after watching him quietly playing alone, deemed that the little boy was deliberately choosing to isolate himself from others.
But he never formed friends and always preferred to play alone.’At first Susan, who lives with her husband Joe and other son Ethan, three, thought Sam just liked his own company.
I felt sick — if he was like this in the comfortable world of pre-school, I wondered how he’d manage at big school.‘I’d often see party invitations handed out to other children — all except for Sam. ‘Joe had been a shy child, too — and he told me I was being overly concerned. But I had a gut feeling I had to do something to help Sam before it got worse.‘I found myself envying mothers whose kids went happily into social situations,’ she said.
At night when he went to sleep, I’d burst into tears. ‘I always felt anxious that I had to justify Sam’s behaviour in some way to ensure people didn’t just think he was being rude by not speaking to them.’Susan spent hours scouring the internet for reasons why Sam might be so shy — and wondered whether it was anything from a developmental delay to autism.‘At one point Sam had walked on tip-toes a lot, which I knew was a sign of possible autism, so I was concerned that maybe he was on the spectrum,’ she says.
I used to joke that the one thing I didn’t have to worry about was him making friends.’His contentment continued through pre-school, which he joined aged two.
On his first day at infant school, he skipped happily into his reception class.